Leadership Through Servanthood

Paul says that Christ cared for the church in such a manner that it “should be holy and blameless” (Ephesians 5:27).  Just as Christ would never do anything that would compromise the integrity of His bride (the church), so husbands should always behave in a manner that promotes their wives’ holiness before God.

It is quite common today for men to cajole their wives into viewing pornography or going to “strip clubs” as a means of “sprucing up their sex life.”  Sadly, many secular marriage therapy texts see this as a legitimate technique to increase sexual intimacy in marriage. Christian marriage counselors find that many who would describe themselves as believers engage in similar activity.

Husbands leading their wives in such behavior is only one example of how they contribute to their wives defilement. Husbands that flirt with other women also contribute to their wives’ defilement.

The wife, feeling neglected and lonely, may seek solace in some unhealthy way: overeating, substance abuse, or an extra marital relationship of their own. It is the wise husband that remembers that ” If he refuses to be the husband God called him to be, Satan has someone who will.”

The husband wields tremendous power, power that, on one hand, can result in great love and devotion, and, on the other , can produce generations of pain and suffering. Husbands must make a choice regarding the type of legacy they want to leave.

The writer of Deuteronomy said it best, “I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live”  (Deuteronomy 30:19)

Pastor Kirt Eure

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Validating her beauty.  Agatha Christie, the famous English Mystery writer once commented, “An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have – the older she gets, the more interested he is in her.”

It was God’s intention that marriage partners be attractive to one another. Indeed, physical appearance is usually the first quality that attracts future mates to each other. It certainly is not a sufficient basis for a relationship, but it is , in most cases , a necessary one.

Paul states that Christ made the church radiant, “to present her to himself as a radiant church”  (Eph 5:27). Christ cares about his church in such a way that it results in beauty, glory and radiance. Likewise, husbands should do all in their power to help their wives feel beautiful and attractive.

When a wife prepares to leave for work in the morning or when she presents herself ready for a romantic dinner and asks. “How do I look?”  her husband should say, “wonderful!”  Ask any woman and she will tell you that “good,” “nice” and “fine” are simply unacceptable responses!

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Paul says that Jesus “cleansed by the washing of the word.” (Eph 5:26). The parallel for husbands is that they are responsible for the spiritual direction and well-being of the home.

Marriage counselors hear frequently that one of a wife’s greatest desires is for her husband to initiate regular times of devotions and prayer in the family. For many men , doing so is tragically difficult.

Whatever the reason, whether it is apathy, pride, or insecurity, husbands need to overcome their resistances and spiritually lead their families.

Pastor Kirt Eure

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