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Headship is Responsibility, Detrich Bonhoeffer, the German theologian who died in the struggle against Hitler, said it eloquently in his 1943, “Wedding Sermon from a prison Cell. ” “As the head, it is he who is responsible for the wife, for their marriage, and for their home.

On him falls the care and protection of the family; he represents it to the outside world; he is its mainstay and comfort; he is the master of the house, who exhorts, punishes, helps, and comforts, and stands for it before God.” To the husband falls the tremendous responsibility of standing on his family’s behalf before God. No one can accomplish this feat on this own. One must be dependent upon God’s empowerment to achieve success.

What Headship is?  headship is Authority through Service. An exhaustive study has shown that no woman has ever shot her husband while he was doing the dishes.

Paul’s admonition is that husbands “Love your wife’s just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for he” (Eph 5:25). There is no room for egoism, selfishness, control , manipulation, or domination in this kind of love.

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As important as the principle of mutual submission is, it is vital the we do not read into it a meaning that Paul did not intend.  Some have squeezed out the Ephesians 5:21 an interpretation that eliminates any distinction in the roles of husband and wife. Such a meaning is not consistent with the verses that follow. Paul states in Ephesians 5:23 , “the husband is to be head of the wife.”

What Headship Is Not:

1. Superiority.  A survey of history reveals a pattern of male subjugation of women that is shameful. Marcius Cato, the famous Roman statesman living in the second century B.C , wrote, “If you catch  your wife in the act of infidelity, you can kill her without trial. But if she were to catch you, she would not venture to touch you with her finger.

She has no rights.”  Even in our liberated culture, women are frequently seen as mere sex objects – another position of inferiority. What a contrast to Paul’s direction given to husbands in Ephesians 5!

Paul’s admonition that husbands and wives be submissive, “one to another” is our first clue that Biblical headship does not involve the husband being in a superior position to the wife. Furthermore, Scripture makes the equality of all believers quite clear, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28).

There are no classifications of Christians, neither are there differing ranks. Every believer has equal standing before God. We all have the same regenerated nature, the completeness of the Holy Spirit, and the same divine resources..  As someone aptly said, “The Ground at the foot of the cross is level. ”

The husband that has relinquished this role as head of the home is, more often that not, the husband that complains bitterly about his wife’s nagging. He might refer to himself as a “hen-pecked husband.” For some women, nagging serves the function of feeling superior. For others, however , nagging is an attempt to repeat their husband in the place of authority in the home.

They long to feel the security and comfort resultant from a husband who lovingly leads his family through the ups and downs of life.

Husbands again taking up the standard of leadership in the home is vital. Dr. James Dobson says it strongly, ” Our very survival as a nation will depend on the presence or absence of masculine leadership in the home.”

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We will look at some of the causes of the controversy:

2.    Radical Feminism. Feminism, in its early days, had a fair and, come could argue, Godly motivation to eliminate the discrimination rampant in pay scales and social structures is a goal that few would argue against. Unfortunately, the feminist movement has undergone a mutation throughout this century. Instead of being satisfied with the goal of equality “ There is neither Jew no Greek, there is neither salve nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus”  Gal 3:28 , modern feminist desire to eliminate any distinctions between the sexes.

One advocate for modern feminism stated, “Feminism is no longer a battle for equal opportunity in a male-dominated society, but a kind of 120step recovery program for wounded women. “  None other than Gloria Steinem once said of members of the feminist movement, “Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry.”  This certainly is not a global that squares with Biblical teaching.

God has once and for all declared us equal in terms of value and worth. However, He makes marked distinctions in our roles and functions. Furthermore science also contradicts the radical feminists’ view of the sexes having no distinctions.

Many studies have been done explaining that when men’s rains experience the bath of testosterone and others hormones while developing in their mothers’ wombs, their thinking, behavior, and emotional tendencies are radically altered and remain unchanged throughout life.

For example, in a Harvard study of several hundred preschoolers, researchers discovered an interesting phenomenon.  As they taped the children s playground conversation, they realized that all sounds coming from little girls mouths were recognizable words.

However, only 60 percent of the sounds coming from little boys were recognizable.  The other 40 percent were yells and sounds effects like “Vrrrooooom!””Aaaaagh!” “Toot toot!”   This difference persists into adulthood.  Communication experts say that the average women speaks over 25,000 words a day while the average man speaks only a little over 10,000.

We must resist modern feminism’s attempt to blur the boundary between the sexes. The healthy functioning of a family is not determined by all members acting, thinking, and feeling alike.

Rather it is as the members of a family recognize their God created differences and adhere to their God- ordained roles that the pieces fit together and work properly. Families are torn apart by competition, they are held together by complementarity.

Pastor Kirt Eure – GODS VIEW POINT OF THE CONTROVERSY OF SUBMISSION – Part 2